Self Love

Never try to force your yourself or your body to do anything, all that will happen is that a part of you will just rebel against it. We all know this too well!
Instead think about it like this, work on a little self love and care, eat well cause you care about yourself, do it because you like to feel good when you do. Move more as this is an act of self love and care, listen to your body and be in charge of your own nutrition and what works for you. This also takes the stress out of the way you eat, there is no judgement about the food as you are coming from a place of love and care.
Instead of forcing your body to do anything do these things instead:
-Get more sleep and better quality sleep
-Eliminating toxins from your food and your lifestyle
-Reduce the expectations you have of yourself
-Give yourself some time to slow down now and again
-Switch of electronic stuff earlier in the evening
-Love and care more for yourself
-Listen to your body more
-Stop thinking you have to be perfect or eat perfectly
-Care about your bodies hunger and fullness levels
-Care & love the body you live in and feed it less processed foods.
-Listen to your emotions more, they are there to tell you something.
Work on more self love and care rather than pushing yourself or forcing your body to do something that it will rebel against :)x


The food industry wants you to buy more food so they put more and more sugar & other crappy ingredients in our food products, this food has no nutritional value, which then makes you constantly hungry.

Most of the food products that are packaged and on our supermarket shelves contains processed sugar and corn syrup. It doesn’t need to be in our foods as much as they are putting it in there, so why do they do it.

It’s there cause sugar stimulates your appetite and makes you hungry and the food industry love it cause it makes them money due to you continuing to buy more of it and in large amounts.

So it’s not your fault if you continue to crave these foods as they are addictive, it’s no wonder so many people can’t stop.

There doesn’t need to be sugar in peanut butter, you’ll find many with sugar and just a few without, there doesn’t need to be sugar in canned food, there are many with sugar and some without, sugar doesn’t need to be in so many products but they still put it in there.

You can make your own sweets, Wholefoods Simply is fantastic for recipes. Make your own sauces, we make all of our own by using Mingle Seasonings and things like coconut milk, yogurt or can of organic chopped tomatoes, depending on what sauce you are after. Make your own flavored yogurt with natural greek yogurt and then adding your own fruit as the store bought ones are full of sugar.

Always read the food labels and ingredients list and eat less from packaged foods and more of what you make yourself and this is a great way to reduce the amount of sugar and toxic ingredients that you and your family eat.

Eat these foods in moderation and when you do eat them have no guilt and enjoy, just don’t eat them everyday and be aware of any cravings you may have then try and swap to something else.

The topic of food cravings can go a lot deeper but for now just be aware of one reason you may be cravings certain foods, it just might be your body is addicted to sugar.

Empower yourself more with this type of info, don’t always think that everything on the supermarket shelves is ok, take charge of you health so you can be your best and healthiest self :)x

Stop the guilt!


Eliminate the guilt peeps, around everything but especially if you’ve eaten something less nutritious.

When you have guilt because you’ve eaten a food that you think you shouldn’t have, when you punish yourself for putting what you label as bad food in your mouth it puts your body in a stress response.

When you are in a stress response you are in a fight or flight response, in a stress response you’ll be producing an excess of insulin & cortisol which can signal the body to store fat & not build muscle.

In a stress response you are decreasing your digestive capacity for that very food that you are eating that is “bad for you” you will have less of the ability to digest it.

Also stress depletes the immune system. So the way your body would normally handle the sugar, preservatives, colours etc of that food that you’re eating will be limited because you are under stress due to beating yourself up for eating the food that is on your bad list.

So if you’re going to eat a less nutritious food, enjoy it, sit down and be present to the food and all of your senses while eating it. Be relaxed while eating it so your body doesn’t go into stress mode. Stop all of those voices in your head that is giving you a hard time while eating the less nutritious stuff.

Big message here is to stop the guilt & judgement of yourself in any area but i’ll stick to the point here, stop it if you happen to eat something less nutritious. Stop giving your food emotional power, if you are going to eat the food, make sure you sit down and actually enjoy it.

Give yourself permission to enjoy certain less nutritious foods now and again in moderation.

No more guilt peep!

Go on the next new diet craze or meal plan!
Follow someone else’s menu or meal-kit that are calorie counted for you!
Try that other thing you haven’t tried but your friends have so that will work!
Cut out a major food group cause that will work this time!
Screw your body up, your mindset & your self esteem every time you try something new & it didn’t work!
You know it’s a different type of diet so this one will work, you can follow this meal plan so that will work, repeat, repeat & repeat!
Get fatter and fatter, get more and more confused on how to teach your children on just eating healthy for life!
Lose yourself and in the end get so confused on how to actually eat well cause you’ve been on so many diets and challenges that the next diet is all you know.
Detach from yourself more and more and all while your children are watching and picking up bad habits themselves.
Maybe you just don’t know a better way, maybe you just think this is how it is just going to be for you or maybe you feel scared to go a little deeper and work more on what is really going on, inside you, after all, our outside world is a huge reflection on the inner.
So i ask you this, all you need to do is to start making some swaps, can you start to eat less processed foods, most of the time, swap white bread, white pasta or white rice with wholemeal, wholegrain, the brown stuff. Can you cut out canola & vegetable oils and replace with olive or coconut oil. Can you eat more veggies, can you eat less from a box and more of what you make. Can you drink more water and less soft drink. Can you replace that inner critic in your head with an affirmation that is more positive such as “i am enjoying getting healthier and healthier everyday.” Can you make sure you get enough sleep every night?
Everyone wants weight loss so fast and the easy road but this doesn’t equal easy later on, it just means more pain and heart ache and sickness.
Look after yourself in more ways than just food and exercise for long term weight loss x


Do you need to go on one more 6 week challenge to lose weight?
Do you need to do another strict diet to lose weight?
No you don’t, having said this, of course you will lose weight this way but for most people the weight will in most cases pile back on plus more.

You are all so aware of this but continue doing the same thing over and over and then every time you put the weight back on you lose more self confidence and feel worse about yourself each time.

My heart goes out to everyone who does this as i was the same, it’s so hard to know what to do as we are constantly bombarded with every diet under the sun, especially with social in our face.

It’s not your fault for feeling defeated so try not to feel this way just know that there is a better way.

I also just want to say that the more you focus on hating yourself and your body, the less you will actually get the results you are after, crazy hey but very true and my ladies in my Empower Me online program are seeing this for themselves first hand. They are losing weight as soon as they focus on self love and fueling there bodies with what makes them feel good all while never depriving.

You should never deprive yourself, ever, as all this does is make you want to binge on it the next chance you get.

Life is about living, not telling yourself that you can’t eat this and you can’t eat that, only to then weeks later find yourself knee deep in the stuff that you’ve avoided for so long.

My little tip for you today is to lose weight slowly and let it happen while you either throw away your scales and just focus on how you feel, be a more mindful person especially while you are eating, actually taste your food and enjoy the process. Too often we are distracted and we get to the end of our meal and don’t even remember eating it, the same as when you drive from A to B and don’t remember how you got there.

Use all of your senses while eating:
Listen to your body’s hunger and fullness levels
Have no distractions around you
Have a look at the food

The more you do this the better you will get.

Slow down and enjoy what you are actually eating and stay away from the next diet that is something that you can’t sustain for life.

Always ask yourself:
“Is the diet that i’m about to go on something i am going to sustain for life”?

If not, you need to run the other way and fast!